Missed my interview on BrianLehrer Show on WNYC about sibling negative influences & Tsarnaev brothers? Listen here:
http://www.wnyc.org/story/blood-brothers-sibling-influence-crime/
Author: Dr. Jonathan Caspi
Quoted in today’s Huffington Post piece on Sibling Day
Here’s the link to:
8 Cool Things You Didn’t Know About Sibling Relationships
by Caroline Bologna
http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2015/04/10/national-sibling-day-myths-facts_n_7019548.html
Happy Sibling Day!
Friday, April 10 is National Siblings Day, a day for the 80 to 90 percent of Americans who have siblings to celebrate their brothers and sisters. Celebrating Siblings Day can be as easy as sending a card, sharing a meal or doing a favor for a sibling.
“There is no relationship like the ones we have with our siblings,” said Montclair State University Family and Child Studies professor, Dr. Jonathan Caspi. A leading expert on sibling relationship dynamics, Caspi is the author of Sibling Aggression Treatment andSibling Development: Implications for Mental Health Practitioners. He has identified five reasons to celebrate Siblings Day:
- Siblings may have a greater influence on who we are or who we become than our parents and peers do, according to a growing body of research. Sibling relationships are intense relationships involving support, love, competition and conflict. Like it or not, so much of the way we handle relationships, closeness, competition, give support, argue, resolve conflicts and play we learned from our interactions with our siblings.
- Recent research is showing how important sibling support is for bolstering resilience and coping with difficult life experiences.
- Sibling relationships are the longest-lasting relationships most people have – and more people have siblings than they have children or spouses.
- Only with a sibling can you authentically commiserate about mom and dad and the crazy things families do!
- Siblings are who we confide in. They know our deepest secrets and share in family experiences – both the good and the bad. Witnesses to our most embarrassing and proud moments, they are the keepers of shared memories and personal histories.
Created by Claudia Evart, the Siblings Day Foundation established a National Siblings Day, celebrated on April 10, the birthday of Evart’s late sister, Lisette. Since 1998, 85 governors – including former New Jersey Governor Christine Todd Whitman – have signed Siblings Day proclamations in 49 states.
For the roughly 20 per cent of Americans who are only children or “singletons,” there is National Only Child Day, which is celebrated onApril 12.
“The advantage of being a singleton is that there is no competition for parental resources,” said Caspi. “This is often an explanation for reported high achievement of only children, who tend to be high achievers like first-borns.”
The downside? “The lack of sibling support, which is so important in resilience and coping.”
Research shows that siblings with autism more different than similar
A study published in the journal Nature Medicine has reported that in families with two children both diagnosed with autism, they are genetically similar only 30% of the time. Using whole-genome mapping techniques, siblings pairs were different 70% of the time — suggesting they had different “types” of autism. You can read about it in this New York Times article http://nyti.ms/1CIGyM4 and/or in this TIME piece: http://time.com/3683475/autism-siblings-study/
This has implications for treatment of course (e.g., using genome mapping with older siblings to diagnose and treat youngers), but also raises some interesting questions.
First, it calls into question the accuracy and utility of the autism diagnosis. The study’s authors argued that the difference was due to genetic diversity of the disorder. Perhaps it is that the diagnosis is not refined enough. It is too broad and accounts for too great a diversity of behaviors.
Second, there has long been a body of research on typically-developing siblings that shows they are more different than similar. These have focused on psychological and personality differences (not genetics), so a bit comparing apples and oranges, BUT the fact that siblings are more different than similar is no surprise to sibling researchers.
The question then becomes whether or not the same processes that support differences the same in all siblings — pairs diagnosed with autism and pairs who are typically developing.
Nice Little Post about Sister love!
50 Things I Want for My Little Sister (by Lexi Herrick):
http://www.huffingtonpost.com/lexi-herrick/50-things-i-want-for-my-little-sister_b_6334874.html
As an aside, sibling support and positivity are linked to a variety of important developmental and lifelong benefits. Improved sibling relationships results in better lives. – JC
Robin Williams, Siblings and Suicide
The upside of the terribly distressing and sad loss of Robin Williams is that people are talking a lot about suicide these days. The discussion, however, tends to focus on the mental health of individuals — perhaps the central feature of suicidal processes — and less on the families and communities in which individuals function and are impacted by. For example, research has shown that family ties are important for preventing suicide. Having strong family ties during childhood has long-term protective consequences. They provide a strong sense of belonging.
An often forgotten relationship in the discussion of suicide and suicide prevention are siblings. There is now a decent body of literature that suggests that positive sibling relationships can buffer the negative effects of stressful or harmful environments such as living in families with domestic violence, substance abuse, divorce, and with peer bullying. When sibling relationships are good, individuals have trustworthy confidants with similar histories — a person (or people) to seek out when the world seems overwhelming and hopeless. Individuals are more willing to discuss taboo and difficult topics — such as sex and suicide — with siblings than with parents.
Robin Williams had two half-brothers. Research has shown that the further children are in the birth order, the higher the risk of depression and suicide (partially attributed to the quality of early childhood ties). Although Williams was the youngest, he essentially grew up as an only child. He did not even know he had one brother until he was a few years old (Robert Williams) and the other until the age of 9 (McLaurin Smith Williams). Although they met sporadically throughout their lives and described their relationships as good, they could not have been considered to be close relationships. Family ties early in development are most critical and Williams did not have close relationships with his brothers early in childhood as he didn’t even know they existed.
This is not to say that Robin Williams committed (or was a victim of) suicide because of his sibling relationships, or even his early family ties. Suicide is exceptionally complicated and does involve mental health challenges, is often accompanied by drugs and/or alcohol, and typically an impulsive act. Individuals even from well-functioning families still do commit suicide (although at lower rates). My point is that when we discuss ways to prevent suicide, discussions should go beyond individual mental health considerations, and also consider families and how fostering strong family ties and positive sibling relationships can have life-saving capabilities years later. Building positive sibling relationships is in many ways more doable than treating lifelong depression, and can actually go a long way in lessening the affects of depression.
Finally, families live in social environments that can support or undermine them. To prevent suicide, we need communities to support families, build family and sibling ties, and give individuals the connections that prevent feelings of isolation and hopelessness.
My thoughts go out to Robin’s family, his wife, children, and to his one remaining sibling.
-JC
Adult Sibling Abuse & the Soccer Star
A story about sibling abuse allegedly perpetrated by soccer star Hope Solo. Nice to be referenced in this story! The author Traciy Curry-Reyes is correct that sibling violence is more widespread than parental abuse of children. In addition, it is more common that parental abuse of children, peer/school bullying, and domestic violence — combined! Always glad to see pieces bringing attention to this invisible form of violence — and, as is clear by this piece, it is (sadly) common in adulthood too.
http://www.inquisitr.com/1317501/hope-solo-not-guilty-in-domestic-violence-case-she-says/
Youngest Sibling Most Likely To Commit Suicide
Interesting new research. In the past, there was some evidence that middleborns were the most likely to have adjustment disorders (e.g., depression, anxiety) and suicidal thoughts — the good ol’ “middle born syndrome” — but new evidence suggests that youngest at greatest risk. Here are some of the reasons given by the researchers:
Younger siblings are often bullied by their olders, with many known harmful effects.
Less parental attention and supervision and parents’ lower awareness of children’s psychological health.
Weaker attachment between later-born children and their parents because of less time with parents.
Also could be due to higher age of parents at children’s birth.
Some interesting thoughts!
http://www.medicaldaily.com/youngest-siblings-18-more-likely-commit-suicide-first-borns-284460
More identical than identical twins!
Very rare & because share same genes & in utero environment they are more identical than typical identical twins! And, they were born on Mother’s Day… meant to be?
Typically, identical twins are not 100% identical because of different genetic expression likely based on differing in utero hormonal and other experiences, as well as extremely minor genetic mutations. But in the case of these newborns, their in utero exposure should be identical, making them even more similar than typical monozygotic twins that experience different amniotic sacks. An important aside: they will still have different personalities…like all twins… which means much if not most of our personality development is due to post-birth environmental reasons. Probably the biggest reason? Living with having to differentiate from a sibling!
